tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1987185331637616134.post3201350103148418786..comments2024-03-07T05:17:46.844-05:00Comments on The Scribble Pad: BloomShannon :: The Scribble Padhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07377831013971667963noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1987185331637616134.post-15912471799162811092012-07-20T14:48:38.320-04:002012-07-20T14:48:38.320-04:00Yes, to so, so, so many of your thoughts. We are d...Yes, to so, so, so many of your thoughts. We are definitely tracking. There is so much worldly pressure for what your "birth" is "supposed" to be like.<br /><br />I didn't catch that Kelle had a miscarriage. I tend to get lost gazing at the pretty pictures when I visit her blog.<br /><br />And as for the next book, I am not sure yet, but I will definitely keep you posted.Shannon :: The Scribble Padhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07377831013971667963noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1987185331637616134.post-90029669306888920332012-07-19T12:34:33.960-04:002012-07-19T12:34:33.960-04:00(continued) I look forward to seeing where her blo...(continued) I look forward to seeing where her blog goes and the relationship that continues to build between Lainey and Nella. I do also wondering how it will be when/if she brings a new baby into the mix since she has talked about having a miscarriage on her blog since Nella was born. I also felt she had a good mix of new material vs. parts of the blog in her book. There were a few times when I realized that I had already read that story. But her dad? Total shock. Even though she has mentioned her dad on the blog, it never occurred to me about his lifestyle. I think Kelle is so brave so share so much of her life with others. I also love how she is advocating and being involved in DS. She really has jumped in 110%. I hope she writes another book someday since her writing is so heartfelt. It would be interesting to read about how going public with her life, blog, experience has changed her, her family, etc. She touches on that a little bit in the book about when her blog really took off. Also, the dedication of her book to Lainey who taught her how to love? So so sweet. <br /><br />PS. I love this online book club idea!! So fun! What book(s) are you reading next?littlestgemhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00279214003884461371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1987185331637616134.post-9996276472540699962012-07-19T12:34:18.400-04:002012-07-19T12:34:18.400-04:00I started reading her blog when someone on fb post...I started reading her blog when someone on fb posted her birth story about Nella. I was immediately hooked and spent the rest of the evening going back through her archives and reading about her life. The part about Nella looking up at her when she was first born and asking her to love her? I just about died. When I heard she was writing a book I immediately ordered it on Amazon even though it was not due out for another 6 months. The day it arrived I sat and read the first half as soon as I got home from work. I finished the second half the next day. There's something about her writing that is so beautiful. I often found myself nodding about some of the emotions she was feeling and thinking I have felt the same things and Kelle wrote it so well. There were many sentences, paragraphs that I read and reread throughout the book. <br /><br />I love how honest she writes about her feelings and I too was jealous about her "net," living so close to her. Before one of my best friends had her baby at the end of June, I often thought it would be similar to how Kelle described having love ones around during birth, celebrating, etc. Turns out my friend only wanted her husband in the room and in the end she ended up having a C-section and her husband could be the only one in the room. A few days later as our net gathered with a 2 day old baby, it ended up being more like the end of the movie, Now and Then. I asked my friend what advice she would give others who were about to have her first child. She said that the movies make childbirth seem too good to be true - you fall in love with your baby at first glance and everything is perfect. She said for those who don't have that experience feel bad and guilty because it's not as hollywood perceives birth to be. She said that's how it was for her because right after her C-section she got to see the baby for 1 second before they wheeled her to recovery and wanted her to be watched carefully since she had had complications throughout the pregnancy. She said it was over an hour before she got to see and hold her baby and then she had to get to know this new person. She felt guilty that she didn't immediately fall in love with her the second she was born. She loves her now of course, but it made me think that maybe giving birth isn't all the glam and adrenaline that Kelle writes it to be like. I don't yet have kids, but I hope that when I do I have my net there and am able to pull together personalized champagne glasses and guest gift boxes. It also sounds like Kelle had a dream delivery room and doctors. And the pictures throughout the book are incredible. Not only the ones by Kelle, but the ones her friend's took after the birth. The one of everyone holding out their champagne glasses with Kelle in the background really captures the experience she wrote about. <br /><br />Anyway, overall I loved the book. I do want to go back and reread it and I find myself wanting to pass it onto my friends. I think it was helpful that I had caught up on her blog beforehand so that I was familiar with the characters. I really enjoyed how she found the humor in a tough situation and was able to laugh. Specifically the scene where she goes in the hospital bathroom and her and her friend laugh about her eyes making her look like she had DS because she had been crying so much. Laughter really is the best medicine.littlestgemhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00279214003884461371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1987185331637616134.post-34636268745225817622012-07-19T11:31:57.045-04:002012-07-19T11:31:57.045-04:00I felt like I was all puffy-eyed just from reading...I felt like I was all puffy-eyed just from reading about her being puffy-eyed. Lots of tears for sure. Run over to her blog...its a gem of beautiful family photos.Shannon :: The Scribble Padhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07377831013971667963noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1987185331637616134.post-57359985776827499482012-07-18T15:50:17.209-04:002012-07-18T15:50:17.209-04:00Ugh, it's like you want them to be well-rounde...Ugh, it's like you want them to be well-rounded and have lots of good people influence their lives, but at the same time, you want to be ALL they need if it ever came to it. I also wonder, do dad's feel this way too, or is it more of a mom thing?WhitMchttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05941593118951192249noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1987185331637616134.post-90577116925096946402012-07-18T13:36:50.690-04:002012-07-18T13:36:50.690-04:00I have these emotions constantly. I am not natural...I have these emotions constantly. I am not naturally a nurturer, so I understand why Behr turns to Mark when he is upset. I am also glad that Behr loves his daycare teachers. But I would be lying if I didn't say that a pieces of my heart breaks every time he lunges from my arms to see his favorite teacher, with whom he has his own special coded language I don't understand. It kinda hurts even to write about.Shannon :: The Scribble Padhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07377831013971667963noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1987185331637616134.post-75812589381570920432012-07-18T12:56:14.234-04:002012-07-18T12:56:14.234-04:00Can't wait to read it.Can't wait to read it.Katehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06065547736203978065noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1987185331637616134.post-88008213398859440182012-07-18T12:10:09.262-04:002012-07-18T12:10:09.262-04:00I love that you turned this into a "book club...I love that you turned this into a "book club" discussion, and I loved exhanging the long-winded emails with you! <br /><br />I had never read Kelle's blog before, and actually had never heard of her until this book, so everything in it was new to me. I cried and laughed and fell in love with her family. You know most of my (long-winded) thoughts, but to add to the discussion, I am going to share a quote the really stood out to me, so much that I chased down a pen and underlined it:<br /><br />In Chapter 9, when Kelle she is talking about picking her husband up at the airport after his 2.5 weeks away, and Lainey runs to him, clearly thrilled. <br /><br />Kelle says "I felt guilt again for just a moment--thinking she must have needed something from him that I couldn't give her--but then my joy and relief quickly swallowed the grief." <br /><br />Her straightforward honesty is so real, and she accurately describes a feeling I get so often, when my daughter wants her daddy when she falls down over me, first I feel like there is a void I can't fill and feel bad, but then I am so happy that he can offer her whatever she needs. It's so conflicting, wanting to be EVERYTHING for our children, but accepting the fact that the best partnerships allow both people to provide different kinds of love.WhitMchttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05941593118951192249noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1987185331637616134.post-89656042735400981362012-07-18T11:00:55.830-04:002012-07-18T11:00:55.830-04:00I guess I didn't get the impression that she r...I guess I didn't get the impression that she relied more on her friends than her husband. I think we as women, well at least me, rely on our girlfriends for diff things than we rely on our husbands for. I think since she had all her girlfriends there it was good that she was able to have Brett home with Lainey, I would have wanted the same thing so things at home were a little more consistent for my other child with having dad home. I think she needed her friends and her husband but just in diff ways.Liz/https://www.blogger.com/profile/00018975095617898034noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1987185331637616134.post-15693689167869961802012-07-18T10:49:33.183-04:002012-07-18T10:49:33.183-04:00So, no shame in my game, I cried during her birth ...So, no shame in my game, I cried during her birth story on the train. Between her raw and brutal honesty and my own fears that something will happen to me or my baby one day when that time comes for me, I just got really overwhelmed. Like happymommy above, I was and am insanely jealous of The Net. I thought about my friends and who would be there if I were in a similar situation, and it kind if pained me to realize I don't think I'd have that kind of outpouring. But then again, maybe I'm wrong and I just don't know about My Net because I haven't needed it in that way yet. Who knows. This book was so powerful. And can you believe I haven't even seen her blog until today?! So now I'll spend the rest of my day going through her archives :)Alex Byerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16035001258841623801noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1987185331637616134.post-55218199509273273462012-07-18T10:42:05.357-04:002012-07-18T10:42:05.357-04:00There were so many favorite parts in this book. I ...There were so many favorite parts in this book. I laughed and cried out loud the entire time. <br /><br />At first I was jealous of the net too, and then I realized that I have a net, they just don't all live in the same city, and they aren't necessarily the same people in eachother's net. ie. my best friend in DC knows my best friend in Boston, but they wouldn't be there to help eachother. My sisters are part of my net, but they don't hang out with my friends. I think she is a very lucky lady, and has clearly spent a good deal of time investing in the people around her. Which makes me glad they seem to reciprocate the love.Shannon :: The Scribble Padhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07377831013971667963noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1987185331637616134.post-73561222988473495932012-07-18T10:33:05.505-04:002012-07-18T10:33:05.505-04:00One of the biggest criticisms of Bloom is that Kel...One of the biggest criticisms of Bloom is that Kelle seems to rely on her friends, not her husband. I kept thinking this as I read as well, but I don't think I blame her. Here are my thoughts on this: Kelle is a blogger. This book is very much like her blog, and it many ways, talking about friends on your blog is not as personal, or sacred, as talking about your marriage. My own husband is not on my blog much because it sometimes feels too close. I also think they probably had more financial/work stress going on than she addresses from the few times she references Brett's work - reason to not run worries to your husband. What are your thoughts? Did you get the impression Kelle's "Net" was tighter than her marriage?Shannon :: The Scribble Padhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07377831013971667963noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1987185331637616134.post-29041690319794460402012-07-18T09:48:45.214-04:002012-07-18T09:48:45.214-04:00I pre-ordered this book too and read it as soon as...I pre-ordered this book too and read it as soon as I got it in 2 days! I LOVE Kelle's blog, have been following since Nella's birth. I think she is an inspiration and she makes me strive to be a better mama in my daily routine, to try and remember to let things go and just dance in the rain with my kids! <br />I loved your recap of each chapter. I was SO jealous of "the net", what an incredible support system. Although, I agree with you that I wouldn't have wanted all those people in the hospital room with me but then again if I had that many people I bet it would be fun! The words from her dad and her sister after Nella's birth had me crying, so very sweet!<br />Lainey and Nella are Beautiful and the pictures in the book and the pictures on her blog of them are always stunning! <br />A lot of your favorite parts that you mentioned were also my favorite parts....just a sweet, raw, honest book and I loved it!Liz/https://www.blogger.com/profile/00018975095617898034noreply@blogger.com